Responsible Kids Network, Internet Safety and Parenting Coach Marty Wolner

Is there a secret? Many parents have asked me if there's a "secret" to effective parenting (+), and I tell them that the secret is that effective parents give kids what they need, rather than what they want. Knowing what kids need is the key and in order to raise emotionally and relationally healthy kids, parents need to better understand who a child is (+) and what tools are most effective in raising a responsible kid.

For instance, there are many ways to build self esteem (+) in children. Healthy self esteem will help a child feel lovable and capable and provide a foundation for healthier adult experiences and relationships. Knowing how to effectively build high self esteem in kids (+) may be a challenge for many parents. And becoming more aware of common challenges like overindulgence (+) and less than healthy communication can help parents focus on healthier approaches.

Finding healthier ways to communicate (+) will not only build high self esteem in kids, but also strengthen relationships. Every relationship a child experiences, impacts who that child becomes. Recent research on the human brain has provided startling evidence that each interaction with a child and his or her relationships in general, affect that child's actual brain development.

There is a difference. While most parenting educators and coaches will offer what they believe are effective parenting tools, most miss a big piece of the picture, and hence can only offer hit-and-miss strategies (+). Before deciding what parenting tools are most effective, parents need to know who a child is, his or her temperament, stage of development, maturity level, personality, and social connections to then begin to work on effective tools (+).

I'm here to help. One-on-one consultation is available to work with parents to assess the nature of their child, and then determine what parenting tools may be most effective. Whether it's healthy communcation, (+) effective discipline,(+) self esteem building, (+) coping with anger, (+) or dealing with teenagers, (+) I have helped hundreds of parents. Initial consultations are free of charge.